Yipee! I'm so happy to announce that after four years of living, learning and nerding out together Jb and I have decided to make a lifelong commitment to each other! We decided this weekend, after many discussions about the marriage, how we feel about it and how
we would like to do it as a couple. It ended up being a beautifully egalitarian decision: we sat in our favorite cafe and explored the many ways our commitment could be expressed, finally deciding to take on the "formal" title of "engaged" and telling our family and friends about our decision. It was such a joy to shine up my grandma's beautiful engagement ring, hit the town and share our news with everyone!
It was also so exciting to have an actual
discussion about our plans for marriage, rather than focusing on the expectation of an epic romantic gesture behind the decision. We talked about how we would like our wedding (and marriage) will be intentionally non-traditional, specifically with regards to embodying a more equal partnership rather than one that places the wife (i.e. me!) in a disempowered, "secondary" position and the husband in a position of economic or relational authority. We can and do see ourselves as equal partners which, to me, is very hopeful and exciting! We also briefly talked about outdoor weddings, bbq's, and summer celebrations (i.e. summer 2013, not this summer)... so stay tuned!
I can't wait to share more details with you all as they unfold! Thanks to everyone for putting up with our mushy nerdiness over the past few years, you can expect quite a bit more from here on in! ^_^
xoxo.