It was also so exciting to have an actual discussion about our plans for marriage, rather than focusing on the expectation of an epic romantic gesture behind the decision. We talked about how we would like our wedding (and marriage) will be intentionally non-traditional, specifically with regards to embodying a more equal partnership rather than one that places the wife (i.e. me!) in a disempowered, "secondary" position and the husband in a position of economic or relational authority. We can and do see ourselves as equal partners which, to me, is very hopeful and exciting! We also briefly talked about outdoor weddings, bbq's, and summer celebrations (i.e. summer 2013, not this summer)... so stay tuned!
I can't wait to share more details with you all as they unfold! Thanks to everyone for putting up with our mushy nerdiness over the past few years, you can expect quite a bit more from here on in! ^_^
xoxo.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! :) WISH YOU HAPPINESS ALWAYS.
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ReplyDeleteyou guys rule. can't wait to seeee youuuuu
So lovely! Very happy for you two! Your grandmother's ring is beautiful! I can't wait to wear my great grandmother's ring as well!
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Yay!! LOVE this so very much! Wishing you all the best!
ReplyDeleteaw zoe this is so refreshing to hear. your take on marriage isn't non traditional, it's modern and the way it should be! i couldnt agree more that marriage is an equal partnership and i'm so happy for you two! congrats!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! I'm very very happy for you and your fiancee. :) Looking forward to all the wedding prep, of course!
ReplyDeleteyay!! how exciting!!!!!!!!! congratulation :)
ReplyDeletefelt a little silly after i gasped (even though i don't personally know you) when i saw the title of this posted and the accompanying photo...but i don't care!! so exciting, so lovely. it's great seeing the happy faces. CONGRATS!! i'm sure it'll be such a fun summer celebration and lifelong fun. wheeeee
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! I'm really happy for you two. : ))))
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Congratulations! I know I'm not the first nor will I be the last, but this is so exciting. ;)
ReplyDeleteWow Congratulations...such great news
ReplyDeleteWOAH WHAT A LUCKY GUY!!!!
ReplyDeleteRight on you two. You're unstoppable!
That's great news! Congratulations! I like that you both came to that decision, I feel like more people should do that. I also like that you're making sure your roles are equal, I would go the same way about it :)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations !
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!! So excited for both of you. :)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteVery similar situation with me. I have been with my boyfriend ever since I was 15; over 8 years now. We are going to the courthouse at the end of may, but nothing formal was ever done. We are thinking about having a picnic-esque wedding on the same date next year and hopefully go on a honeymoon. Congrats! http://nauticalowl.blogspot.com/
ReplyDeleteCongrats!
ReplyDeleteOh congratulations, I love how you are taking such an equal approach towards marriage, I think that makes a great basis for a life together!
ReplyDeleteAwww shucks, so sweet... congratulations to the both of you! Looking forward to all the mushiness to come! xo
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!! Every happiness for the future :) xxx
ReplyDeleteomg yay!! congratulations!!
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Congrats!!
ReplyDeleteHow exciting! Congratualtions!
ReplyDeleteI know this is late...and I can not believe i didn't write anything when I first read this. I just wanted to say....
ReplyDeleteCongrats!!!!! Summer outdoor bbq sounds PERFECT!
Massive internet hug AHHHHHH and then maybe some jumping around and squealing.
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So very excited for you lady, congrats! :)
ReplyDeleteMassive congratulations to you both :) sounds like you did it in a very sweet, and real way, with the best of intentions. So lovely that you have a ring that really means something too. xxx
ReplyDeleteI haven't been reading your blog for long but congratulations! I really love your approach to being engaged and discussing your partnership in that way. I think it was John Green who talked about how weird it is that marriage proposals are usually portrayed as something that is thrust upon a woman, a decision that she has to make right away as opposed to the man who has actually had time to think about it (without discussion), and that really is a pretty ridiculous way of going about things. Anyway, yay love!
ReplyDeleteYAYYYY so exciting! Congratulations to the both of you : )
ReplyDeleteI actually really love how yall's engagement happened. Me and my boyfriend have talked about our commitment to each other and how we'd like to be in each other's lives long term, but I seriously couldn't imagine a traditional down-on-one-knee kind of thing. No ma'am not for us! We're also extremely poor things so I've often wondered how to go about the ring thing. I love how you're wearing your grandmother's! You're story is helping me think outside of the box a bit!
Just lovely. You guys are the coolest. And by the way you're the cutest thing ever!
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I realize I'm totally late to the game, but happy, happy days! Congratulations you two. :D I seriously can't wait for many more mushy stories of your adventures together.
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I'm sooooo happy for you two! This makes my heart happy.
ReplyDeleteawww, just seeing this! congrats lady!! to you and your fiance! you two are adorable together, and i love how you explain your loving partnership. beautiful ring as well!
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